Satisfied Buddhist - Domo Geshe Rinpoche

Classic Buddhist mind training advice: “Do not lie in ambush.” A common strategy for a controlling-type personality is to energetically lie to someone by giving a good poker face, and leading someone on. It is often used as the basis for telling a good joke too. This same strategy, in its high form, is also a Socratic method of tea ching. So, what is the difference between these? One has motivation to control another, to draw someone into a position by making them fear to do otherwise, and then punishing her or him, while others have more beneficial intentions. The underlying structure for telling a good joke is to wait in ambush to make them laugh and enjoy. A good joker pretends to do one thing, then springs out with another way to see it. For example; at a circus, a tiny car roars into the ring, and many clowns get out. We laugh because it is unexpected, and we release tension in a positive way. Or a clown chases another clown with a bucket that we are certa...

The skillful means developed in the path of the Bodhisattva is not about sitting in reality. Mahayana Buddhists learn to let go of self absorption to see the real issues facing others and ourselves in daily life, which obstruct our ability to awaken. To solve a problem, take away personal agenda and open up a new vie w of the situation. Perhaps the problem will resolve to our benefit or perhaps not. Most problems arise when we try to control others to make them obey us or to allow others to control us. The third way is to work on the problem without trying to personally win or lose. This is how Bodhisattvas behave with others without neediness or becoming angry. ~Domo Geshe Rinpoche ~~~ ""Bei den kunstfertigen Fähigkeiten, die auf dem Bodhisattvaweg entwickelt werden, geht es nicht darum, in der Wirklichkeit zu verweilen. Mahayanabuddhisten lernen die Selbstversunkenheit loszulassen, um die wahren Belange zu sehen, die andere und uns im täglichen Leben konfronti...

Too much sugar or too much salt in our food tastes bad. Too little sugar, too little salt also tastes bad. Like that, relationships that are too clinging, too controlling, not enough sweetness or exciting enough might cause us to seek friends elsewhere. Actually, from a Buddhist point of view, we will have to learn how... to get along with all other living beings.... and beyond that, we will decide to learn how to best benefit them. Eventually, like the Buddha of Compassion, Chenrezig, we will promise to rescue them! Anyway... begin in easy way... try to get along...... ~Domo Geshe Rinpoche "Essen mit zuviel Zucker oder Salz schmeckt schlecht. Zuwenig Zucker oder Salz schmeckt auch schlecht. So ist es mit Beziehungen, wo zuviel geklammert und kontrolliert wird - bei zu wenig Süße oder Spaß suchen wir vielleicht woanders nach Freunden. Vom buddhistischen Standpunkt aus müssen wir tatsächlich lernen, uns mit allen anderen Lebewesen zu verstehen.... und darüber hinaus, werden wir uns...